倾听的力量 TED演讲稿（共五则范文）.docx

倾听的力量TED演讲稿（共五则范文）

第一篇：倾听的力量TED演讲稿Listeningisanactiveskill.Whereashearingispassive,listeningissomethingthatwehavetoworkat.It'sarelationshipwithsound.Andyetit'saskillthatnoneofusaretaught.Forexample,haveyoueverconsideredthattherearelisteningpositions,placesyoucanlistenfrom?Herearetwoofthem.Reductivelisteningislistening“for.”Itreduceseverythingdowntowhat'srelevantanditdiscardseverythingthat'snotrelevant.Mentypicallylistenreductively.Sohe'ssaying,“I'vegotthisproblem.”He'ssaying,“Here'syoursolution.Thanksverymuch.Next.”That'sthewaywetalk,rightguys?Expansivelistening,ontheotherhand,islistening“with,”notlistening“for.”It'sgotnodestinationinmind.It'sjustenjoyingthejourney.Womentypicallylistenexpansively.Ifyoulookatthesetwo,eyecontact,facingeachother,possiblybothtalkingatthesametime.Men,ifyougetnothingelseoutofthistalk,practiceexpansivelistening,andyoucantransformyourrelationships.认真倾听是一种主动技能。普通地听是被动的，而倾听却是要花功夫的。倾听是处理声音与声音之间的关系。它也是一种与生俱来的能力。比如，你考虑过倾听也有不同的姿势，以便你接收声音吗？看以下两个例子。删减性的倾听是有“选择”的听。它会只关注你想要知道的东西，而忽略无关紧要的内容。男人通常会删减性的倾听。比如一个人说：“我有个问题。”另一个人说：“这是你的答案。多谢。下一位。”这就是我们谈话的方式，对吧，男士们？而另外一种，扩展性的倾听是“无目的”，“无选择”的。听你脑海里并没有明确的目标而只是享受听的过程。女人通常会扩展性的倾听。看看这两位，面对面，保持眼神交流，可能两人同时都在说话。男士们，如果你们谈话时觉得索然无味，试试扩展性的倾听，或许可以改善你们的关系。ThefirstreallybighealthissueisawordthatMurraySchafercoined:“schizophonia.”It'sadislocationbetweenwhatyouseeandwhatyouhear.So,we'reinvitingintoourlivesthevoicesofpeoplewhoarenotpresentwithus.Ithinkthere'ssomethingdeeplyunhealthyaboutlivingallthetimeinschizophonia.Thesecondproblemthatcomeswithheadphoneabuseiscompression.Wesquashmusictofititintoourpocketandthereisacostattachedtothis.Listentothis--thisisanuncompressedpieceofmusic.Andnowthesamepieceofmusicwith98%ofthedataremoved.Idohopethatsomeofyouatleastcanhearthedifferencebetweenthosetwo.Thereisacostofcompression.Itmakesyoutiredandirritabletohavetomakeupallofthatdata.You'rehavingtoimagineit.It'snotgoodforyouinthelongrun.Thethirdproblemwithheadphonesisthis:deafness.第一大严重的健康问题，根据MurraySchafer的话说，就是“幻听”。这是一种错乱，使你看到的和听到的并不一致。所以，