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WhyMarriagesFail
Anne Roiphe is an American feminist author known for such novels as Up the Sandbox and Lovingkindness. Her work is no-teworthy for its examination of the conflict between the desire forcareer andself-determination 
婚姻何以失败
安妮·罗艾菲
安妮·罗艾菲是一位美国女权主义者作家以诸如《主妇狂想曲》和《慈爱》这样的小说而闻名，她的工作里值得注意的是她事业的欲望与自决之间的冲突
1.ThesedayssomanymarriagesHYPERLINK"http://202.194.15.231/Course/College_English_NEW_Integrated_5/Unit_06/Course/Unit6_TextB.htm"endindivorcethatourmostsacredvowsnolongerringwithtruth.“Happilyeverafter”and“Tilldeathdouspart”areexpressionsthatseemonthewaytobecomingobsolete.Whyhasitbecomesohardforcouplestostaytogether?Whatgoeswrong?Whathashappenedtousthatclosetoone-halfofallmarriagesareHYPERLINK"http://202.194.15.231/Course/College_English_NEW_Integrated_5/Unit_06/Course/Unit6_TextB.htm"destinedforthedivorcecourts?Howcouldwehavecreatedasocietyinwhich42percentofoutchildrenwillgrowupinsingle-parenthomes?If statistics could only measure loneliness, regret, pain, lose of self-confidence, and fear of the future, the numbers would be beyond quantifying. 
如今，以离婚告终的婚姻如此之多，我们最神圣的誓约听上去都不再真实了。“婚后永远幸福”和“直到死神将我们分开”这类话语似乎快过时了。夫妻长相守何以变得如此困难？哪儿出了问题？我们到底怎么了，竟然有差不多半数的婚姻注定要为离婚走进法庭？有42%的儿童将在单亲家庭中长大，我们怎么把社会弄成这样了呢？如果统计要是能测量孤独、遗憾、痛苦、失去自信、恐惧未来的话，那么这个数字将无法计量。

2.Eventhougheachbrokenmarriageisunique,wecanstillfindthecommonperils,thecommoncausesformaritaldespair.Eachmarriagehascrisispointsandeachmarriagetestsendurance,thecapacityforbothintimacyandchange.Outsidepressuressuchasjobloss,illness,infertility,troublewithachild,careofagingparentsandalltheotherplaguesoflifehitmarriagethewayhurricanesblastourshores.Somemarriagessurvivethesestormsandothersdon’t.Marriagesfail,however,notsimplybecauseoftheoutsideweatherbutbecausetheHYPERLINK"http://202.194.15.231/Course/College_English_NEW_Integrated_5/Unit_06/Course/Unit6_TextB.htm"innerclimatebecomestoohotortoocold,tooturbulentortoostupefying.
虽然破裂的婚姻各有其独特的情况，但我们还是能找到致使婚姻无法维持下去的共同因素、共同原因。凡婚姻都有其危机时刻，都要经受对持久力的考验，经受对既能亲密相处又善应对变化这种能力的考验。外部压力，